Accepted is too strong perhaps, yes it is true that current model supports an idea that light appears to take forever to pass a horizon, but if this was truly the case, it would present a paradox, because the observer passing the horizon, surely passes it.

No it's definitely accepted. It's explicitly shown by the Schwarzschild coordinates, the most widely used coordinate system for describing black holes.

And yes, objects aren't slowed from their own perspective and there is a time on their watch when they would reach the event horizon and no, there's no paradox. However long the black hole lasts for, the falling observer won't reach the horizon before the black hole is gone, they will find themselves in the future at the moment the black hole died. No aether required.

1. Inertial or not, SR says that acceleration has no effect on time dilation, so why bring that up?

Just making the point that the non-reciprocal time dilation caused by gravitational acceleration has nothing to do with the inertial frames of SR.

2. But, you're right about this much: When an accelerating frame is involved, the speed of light is no longer constant, and can exceed c. Therefore the limitations which SR tries to impose on inertial frames don't even apply.

The distant object will enter the black hole. If is has to exceed c to do that, so what? Nothing prohibits it.

Not true, the speed of light never exceeds c, it's slower than c for accelerating observers.

If you're not claiming that the observations of a distant observer can affect the distant object, then why is it in the least bit relevant?

Because it shows that over the whole lifespan of black hole, nothing ever reaches its event horizon.

Well, there is the photon sphere beyond the event horizon and right above it where photons infinitely loop in circles inside the Blackhole they just get frozen in the direction toward the Black Hole in the R axis. its not that the photons cannot move just not away from the black hole, the photons could twist and turn around the black hole at a radius all they wanted.

They never actually reach the event horizon due to time dilation and length contraction approaching infinity at the horizon. They just get continually slowed as they approach but never reach the point of being frozen at the horizon. Again, all standard stuff as described by Schwarzschild coordinates.

**Edited by A-wal, 29 March 2019 - 04:25 PM.**